Communication Mistake #1: Over-sharing Your Feelings
This happens when you share YOUR FEELINGS for him first – and often – because you believe this will somehow get him to share his feelings for you in return.A man has a different emotional process, and this is not a great way to get a man to “open up” to you and get in touch with his feelings.
Excessive talking and sharing your feelings can actually work against you more than it helps you. This is especially the case with a man you’re in a relationship with who is already acting withdrawn and has shut off his feelings from you.
Here’s the deal:
If there’s one thing to keep in mind about a man, it’s that talking more about your feelings for him is NOT the way to get to know HIS feelings about you.
Which leads me to the next common communication mistake.
Communication Mistake #2: Unfounded Expectations
When a woman often expects that the relationship will progress to something more committed, but ends up feeling disappointed when she finds out the man doesn’t want the same thing.This problem usually plays out in one of two ways: The woman knows what she wants out of the relationship but keeps quiet for fear of rocking the boat, hoping everything will just work itself out.
Or, when the woman finds out the guy’s not on the same page with her, she’ll pretend she’s cool with things being just casual.
It’s a slippery slope, and one that leads toward ultimate relationship disaster. Resentment will start to build in the woman until she can’t take it anymore, and she’ll then freak out in a confrontation. That’s when the guy shuts down more than ever or disappears altogether.
Getting Clear About What You Want
The first step in breaking out of these two communication mistakes and preventing a break-up is to get very clear about what you want in a relationship.Getting clear about what you want will help guide your mind in all kinds of positive directions to help you find and attract the right situations and people in your life.The next step is being able to communicate your feelings to a man in a way that is not filled with drama and will make him stand up and take notice rather than push him away for good.
There are very specific ways to use your words and body language to do this.
ARTICLE - CHRISTIAN CARTER
